God did not intend for us to be alone or He would not have created Eve for Adam. He meant for us to interact with one another in a loving manner. We all want a friend, don’t we?
God’s word says;
18…Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. Genesis 2:18, 21-22(NLT).
It is in our nature to want to share our lives with others. Have you ever wanted a friend but you found making friends was not something you were good at? Is it because conversing with others meant you had to share part of your life with them and that scared you to death. Maybe you never had anyone to show you how? And then there are some people who make it look so easy you would say they’re a natural. Those kinds of people seem to have an internal magnet attracting the opposite polarity in others without even trying. It is such a blessing to be able to interact with people so easily. For some of us, a lot more effort has to go into making a friend and keeping that friend.
What does being a friend mean to you?
To me being a friend is a give and take kind of relationship because one-sided friendships don’t seem to last, how can they? Don’t get me wrong I know in friendships there are times when one gives more than the other and that’s ok but what I’m talking about is when one person is doing all the giving and talking and the other is barely contributing to the friendship. You have to be willing to share which means being both a listener and a talker in the good and not so good times.
It’s about being there for someone when a family member is going through an extremely serious illness and all they want is someone to talk to. It means asking can I pray for you or is there anything you need? Being a friend is about being kind and loving and not making any judgments on the other person. Sometimes being a friend means you have to give some tough love as long as you remember to speak the truth in love.
His word says;
Kind words are like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body. Proverbs 16:24 (NLT)
To me being a friend is ultimately following this one simple acronym; WWJD-“WHAT WOULD JESUS DO” and for me it also includes “What Would Jesus Do or Say!” What we have to remember is this, it’s not just about the words we speak but also our actions because they can speak louder than words sometimes.
I have heard my Pastor on more than one occasion say,
“If you want a friend you have to be a friend”
and he is so right!